Question: How may I address You?
Answer: Humbly and respectfully at all times.  Privately in My presence or over the phone, you have three choices.  You will address me as “Mistress,” “Goddess,” or “Ma’am.”  If I choose to be seen with you in public, you may address me as “my Darling” in front of others.  If I allow you to correspond with me in E-mails or texts, you will address me as “Mistress,” “Goddess,” or “Ma’am,” and you will show your gratitude, submission and respect by using the D/s convention of always capitalizing My name or any pronoun referring to Me, but never capitalizing your name or any reference to yourself, even at the beginning of a sentence.

Question: How do I get the experience I want?
Answer: Place your trust completely in Me.  Surrender your body, your mind, your fantasies – even your sexual identity – to Me.  Fully submit yourself to My care, custody and control, for I own you whenever you are in My presence, and often even when you are not.  Be specific about your fantasies – a huge way to serve Me while you are away from Me is to acknowledge that I am your biggest fantasy, and to pay homage to Me by telling me specifically what your fantasies about Me have been.  You are also generously invited to comment on stories, fantasies, blogs, scenarios or scenes on My web site that fascinate you or capture your interest or curiosity.  Do not be afraid to make yourself completely vulnerable to Me – you cannot have the experience I want for you unless you do.

Question: How can I ensure that my hard limits are respected?
Answer: If you have never seen Me before, I may ask you questions about your pain threshold or current level of experience.  For example, imagine yourself kneeling at your Mistress’s feet, anticipating Her direction and instruction.  You are apprehensive, hoping that at last you have found the One who will finally accept you for who you really are.  As you wait nervously, you feel your Mistress’s hair and breath against your ear, and you hear her gentle but confident whisper, asking you intimate questions you have always longed to answer truthfully without fear of rejection, such as:
“Do you ever fantasize about wearing bras and panties?” – to find out where you are on feminization; or “How do you feel when you see a mother nursing her baby?” – to find out where you are on infantilism.    This is because the reason you seek Me is to test you, push you, and take you right up to the edge of your unique limits, but it would never serve Me to scar you emotionally or scare you in any way that would inhibit your ability to trust Me absolutely.  Sometimes a submissive fears disapproval or rejection and will subconsciously hide his true feelings about an experience.  While I can usually see through such a pathetic façade, for your own peace of mind I also offer you the following phrases you may use without penalty or punishment, but which may invite scorn or scolding if abused, and if severely abused could result in banishment.  “Yellow light” means that you are near your hard limit and to please “back it off a little bit.”   “Red light” terminates the activity and temporarily converts the session into a learning experience.

Question: What is “topping?”
Answer: Topping is all I ever will do as your Glorious Mistress.  I will always be “on top” – that is, dominating you completely, often by controlling your positions or movements with My voice or physical restraint, sometimes by speaking harshly or implementing corporal punishment or pain, and other times by using denial / reward in a sensual way, all purely for My own pleasure and amusement.  The opposite of topping is “bottoming,” or being “on the bottom,” which is all you will ever do in My presence.  If this doesn’t excite you, find a girlfriend.

Question: What is “topping from the bottom?”
Answer: Topping from the bottom is trying to control or manipulate a scene or situation to satisfy your own desires, or in a fruitless attempt to get Me to satisfy them.  This is inappropriate behavior, which invites discipline or correction.  If I have decided to grant you time with Me, your job as My submissive is, first and foremost, to be honest about your fantasies, desires, interests, curiosities, and even fears – usually ahead of time, but occasionally in My presence when I invite you to do so.  In My presence, your job is to submit to Me – to serve Me as I command you, and to receive gratefully any pleasurable experience I choose to provide for you.  I pride myself on my proven track record of nurturing and bringing out in my submissives what is already inside them.  I may ask you questions about your desires during play time, and I expect you to be honest.  I will train you how to make appropriate requests, but understand that granting requests is solely in My discretion and at My pleasure – this Mistress’s gravest disappointment is the slave who deigns to allow himself any feeling of entitlement or expectation, which can only distract him from experiencing and appreciating any gifts he does receive.

Question: How are You able to bring out in me what is already inside me?
Answer: You will be pleased to know that your Mistress prides herself on reading people.  Her pleasure comes from controlling pleasure, and she does so by reading facial expressions, body language, blood pressure, body temperature, breathing patterns, heart rate and tone of voice.  Even something as slight as the dilation of her subbie’s pupils will give her insight to where you are.