Submissive Etiquette- A better understanding...
The Six Basic Skills of True Submission I encourage you to review these six basic skills closely and strive to put them into practice as best as you are able. These form the bedrock of your submissive experience.
1. Honesty: Without honesty, there can be no trust. Without trust, true D/s cannot exist. You must pledge yourself to be purely honest with me in every conceivable way, as I must pledge the same to you. If you have questions about what I expect of you, be honest and speak up. There is nothing wrong with asking questions respectfully, and is much preferable to remaining ignorant. If you are asked to do something which you somehow are just plain unable to do, it is vitally important that you tell me, as opposed to lying to me.
2. Submissiveness: You are here to learn to submit. You have petitioned me to accept power over you, and I have accepted. You are to be polite, compliant, and to show me the respect I have earned. You are to strive daily to make your submission to me total, complete, and pure.
3. Intelligence: Your petition was accepted because you are an intelligent man. I expect your intelligence to act as the engine that drives your submissive development.
4. Devotion: You must always exhibit deep devotion, both to me as your Dominant and to the promises you made in your contract. You are to be attentive to my every nuance and sensitive to my mood. If I have to tell you two times that you are to do something a specific way, it gives me the impression that you are not thinking, or just don't care. This is not at all pleasing. Put some thought and creativity into your service. Listen when I tell you my hopes and dreams, and try to fulfill my desires. Be observant and respond quickly when I ask you for your thoughts or feelings.
5. Communication: Dominants are not psychics. While I try my best to be sensitive to your needs, I cannot read your mind. I would much rather have you tell me your fantasies so I put that information to use when I choose, than have to guess. I don't like to play with subs that constantly say "Whatever pleases you, Ma'am". If you are not enjoying it, chances are I won't be enjoying it, either. Respond quickly when I ask you for your thoughts or feelings, and commit yourself to never keeping anything from me.
6: Self Respect. Value yourself, and I will value you too. There is no thrill in dominating a doormat, or someone that thinks so little of themselves they will submit to anyone at anytime.
Lastly, a submissive must be willing to freely give himself to his Dominant in Four Major areas:
The Mind acts as the source of the desire to submit and to relinquish power and control to the Dominant. It also acts as the conveyance by which physical manifestation of submission may then be actualized by The Body.
The Body is the conveyance by which this submissiveness is presented to the Dominant. For example, should the Dominant Request the submissive to rise and fetch a glass of water, the mind would submissively convey this energy to the body, which would then submissively convey the glass of water to the Dominant for his use and pleasure.
Instruction is the conveyance by which the Dominant passes wisdom and teaching to the submission, allowing the submissive to grow in his submission and succeed in his goal of pleasing her Dominant.
Use & Pleasure form a single conveyance by which the Dominant may manifest both his duty and desire to properly dominate his submissive, and by which both the Dominant and the submissive may derive reward and satisfaction for their mutual efforts on each other's behalf...
Master James |
